There's something that you want to do. But each time you merely think about doing this one thing, your heart beats the hell out of itself. Within no time, you get second thoughts about going ahead with the thing you wanted to do just a while ago. If this has happened to us, we, in all likelihood, just try and evade the thoughts of doing that thing what we wanted to. Since the "THING" is getting irritatingly repetitive, let's choose an activity that could potentially give someone jitters, merely by the thoughts of it. How about calling someone close after an ugly fight? It's not as life threatening and sky diving. But the very thought of getting shunned/rejected by the loved one seems as life threatening as sky diving.
So "calling someone close after a fight" is the new "THING". If you have been in this position before, when you wanted to call someone, specially after differences between you and the other one, escalated into a showdown, you understand how it feels. The jitters, of how the other would react, or how the other would respond, or rather, not respond, are more than sufficient to keep most of us from making the call. Let the thought of making the call dwell on your mind for a little long, and we'll come up with thoughts that are as close to reality, as we are from Andromeda(the closest galaxy to ours, for sake of GK). Keep the thought in mind and sleep it over. It shall feel like you fought the most torturous battle in human history. Chances are that you still haven't made the phone call. Keeping the thought of calling the person is not going to help anyone. More so, it will remain an energy leech, that shall make you feel more drained of energy with every passing moment.
Ever heard someone say "What's the worst that could happen?" ? The folks who say this are the ones who generally do not fall into the "Liked-by-all" section of the society. But we don't like these folks because they are brash, uncaring, or inconsiderate. We dislike them for the fact that we can't do what these Worse-case-scenario-loving folks manage to pull off. And that is consistent with everything we hate in another person.
Our hatred for someone else stems from our inability to do what the person, whom we hat, can. The hatred, as strange as it sounds, is because of a deficiency we recognize/perceive within us. Strange, right? Even I thoughts so until very recently. And I am digressing all over the place! Back to the point.
So you've had the phone-call jitters for a while. If the "while" has become long enough, a sincere suggestion. There's no point trying to make the call. You won't make the call because, in all honesty, you can't make the call. Specially if you waited so long.
There's an interesting quote I came across somewhere. It went on the lines of
"We are afraid of leaving something behind/ changing out of the fear of what we might loose. Little do we think of what we could potentially gain from making a move/changing."
Does that quote sound vaguely out of context? Or is it just me? Anyway, nice quote, and worth sharing. So there goes.
What most of us don't realize is that in a majority of situation, if not in all situations, we have very less to lose in the first place. In all likelihood, whatever be the outcome, it won't be life threatening. One could get oneself into emotionally difficult situations. But if you can't make your way through some emotional pain in your heart, you....don't deserve to live anyway. Die, human!
If your heart pain sounds a bit more serious....
1) You might have developed some gas. Drink some soda, and burp your heart out! Wow! Then you can watch your heart fly out of your mouth! Okay! Lame.
2) Call an ambulance!! You've experienced a heart attack!
3) If the pain in your heart is psychological, and potent enough to get you to suicide, or cause harm to yourself, then
a) You're shit-stupid.
b) YOU....SHOULD....TOTALLY.....KILL YOURSELF!!
c) Maybe try making that call. You're going to die anyway. What more can you lose by making a phone call? For all you know, the person on the other end might talk you out of killing yourself. In that case, you'll save some counseling money. If you identified yourself in "#3", there is a good chance that your suicide attempt will fail. Why? Refer to point "a)". That's why. You can't even kill yourself properly. Let alone do anything else.
If you feel miserable, go around! Be grumpy! Wear a shitty face! Make people realize that your shit isn't in order! There's nothing to lose. And in case your shit is actually out of order, go take a dump! You'll feel better for sure.
And yes! There's nothing to lose! Worst case, as far as the phone call is concerned, you'll never get to talk to this one person you wanted to. Awww... So sad!...............
WHAT? You don't get to talk to one person, and that makes you feel like shit? There are 7 billion people on the planet! So there's no dearth of people you could talk to for an entire lifetime!
Giving our thoughts a chance at reality is the best thing we can do! Here's another quote I saw somewhere...
"The worst work-out is the one that never happened"
I, being a fitness-fanatic find that line as something I can relate to. But it's not just phone calls and workouts. It's probably about everything in life. Goodness! When did I start giving advice on life?
But given a situation where there's something you want to do, ask yourself this..
What's the worst that can happen?
What's the very... VERRY bloody worst possible thing that can happen?
Give the question a genuinely serious thought. 10 out of 10 times, you'll say... "Oh! That's it? Not all that bad!"
Now that the phone call hasn't killed me, I guess I should try sky-diving!
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